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What are some signs that a therapist may have poor boundaries with their clients?

15.06.2025 04:32

What are some signs that a therapist may have poor boundaries with their clients?

Off the top of my ancient head:

Obsessing about clients outside of work hours.

Struggling with fantasies of deeper connections with clients, whether sexual or parental or other intense or intimate relationships beyond psychotherapy.

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Sense of competition with persons who are important in the client’s life.

These items can happen fleetingly, briefly, in any therapy, but if they’re frequent, it’s definitely time for the therapist to get some good, solid supervision/consultation.

Disclosing feelings, fantasies, and experiences to the client in ways not related to the work the client is engaged in.

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Serious disappointment when the client cancels a session.

Session-expressed curiosities about client details not relevant to the therapy.

Frequent phoning or texting of clients to “check up on them and make sure they’re OK.”

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Failing to mention the client in supervision/consultation, out of fear the supervisor/consultant will advise return to ordinary healthy boundaries.

General Introduction to Boundaries from Panahi Counseling:

Routinely going over the time limit with certain patients, compromising the time for the next client.

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Eager anticipation (or anxious anticipation) of the next session in ways that distract.